In His Own Words
About Him
I'm a man that believes in God, and my faith is the essence of who I am as a *Man*. I strive to live by values that reflect love, kindness, and integrity. I believe in the importance of treating others with respect and compassion, as we are all created with purpose and dignity. In my daily life, I strive to cultivate a strong relationship with *God* yet I don't force my beliefs on others. My faith helps me face life's challenges head on with resilience.
I serve my community, whether through volunteer work or simply helping those in need. Family and friends keep me grounded and are extremely important to me; I cherish moments spent with loved ones. In my free time, I enjoy everything this world has to offer "adventures, skydiving, scuba diving, flying, art, music festivals, dancing, theater, etc...
Enthusiastically participate in meaningful conversations that inspire personal growth, reflecting the *Virgo* man in me. I find happiness in the most mundane thing's and I believe in making every second and moment count. For me happiness can never be a constant state of mind as it comes and goes, it is neither black or white but a multicoloured spectrum.
I'm always open to learning from others, different cultures and sharing experiences that help us walk path together. As much as I love my independence, I know that life is even better when shared. I'm a complex man, I don't give myself halfway; I'm not anyone's half-friend or anyone's almost-love. I'm all or nothing, I can't stand half measures at all. If you want my attention prove it, if you want my time earn it, because I'm tired of proving myself to people that do not deserve my time. If you think you can string me along, I will cut that cord myself! I have learnt that it's better to be alone than to be with someone that does not deserve you. So choose wisely because I won't be waiting around for you to decide, you either choose me fully or don't choose me at all.
About His Ideal Match
Just be yourself! You frustrated with the modern pressure to be constantly happy. Let me offer you an alternative path, I suggest that because constant happiness is a myth, the concept itself might be something to reject, leading to potential disappointment. I’d like to propose a slight shift in framing that might lead to a different, and perhaps more sustainable, sense of fulfilment.
What if the goal isn't the fleeting feeling of "happiness" (joy, excitement), but a deeper, more complex state of well-being?
1. Engagement, where you lose yourself in a challenging task.
2. Build resilience, A life with purpose can contain deep sorrow but not be a disappointing life.
3. Connection, the profound satisfaction of being seen, understood, and valued by others.
Instead of chasing the feeling of happiness, we might focus on building a life that has value to us. Valuing the Full Spectrum of life that isn't devoid of negative emotions.
Intentionally Living, asking yourself, what kind of person do I want to be?" and "What kind of footprint do I want to leave?" rather than "What will make me happy right now?" We live in a world of instant gratification.
Maybe happiness isn't a destination to be reached, but a byproduct of a life well-lived. It's the moments of joy that sparkle along the path of working towards something meaningful, caring for others, and growing through challenges. Philosophers like Jean-Paul Sartre and Viktor Frank, suggested we create meaning through our choices, and our stance toward unavoidable suffering. The "aim" then isn't for a thing that doesn't exist, but for the courage to create your own values in a world that doesn't hand them to you.
Let's agree happiness is fleeting—we might move not toward rejection, but toward a richer vocabulary; from happiness to meaning; from chasing a feeling to building a life; from seeking a prize to engaging in a process. What does make a life worth living, that question is yours to answer, and the pursuit of that answer is anything but disappointing!
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About Him
Country of Origin: |
South Africa | |
Location: |
Atlantic Seaboard, Cape Town, South Africa | |
Gender: |
Male | |
Age: |
62 | |
Star Sign: |
Virgo | |
Height: |
184cm (6' 0.4") | |
Body Type: |
Average | |
Looks: |
Average | |
Hair Colour: |
Dark Brown | |
Eye Colour: |
Brown | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home Language: |
English | |
Other Languages: |
Afrikaans; Russian | |
Religion: |
Christian / Catholic | |
Relationship Status: |
Single | |
Looking for: |
Open to possibilities; Long-term; Marriage | |
Have Children: |
No | |
Want Children: |
No | |
Daily Diet: |
Eat healthily | |
Smoking: |
Non-Smoker | |
Drinking: |
Non-Drinker | |
Education: |
Postgraduate degree | |
Occupation: |
Technical / Science / Engineering | |
Income: |
Wealthy |
About His Ideal Match
Country of Origin: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Location: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Gender: |
Female | ||
Age Range: |
18 - 54 | ||
Star Sign: |
Taurus; Cancer; Scorpio; Capricorn | ||
Height: |
140cm (4' 7.1") or shorter - 182cm (5' 11.7") | ||
Body Type: |
Slim; Average; Athletic | ||
Looks: |
Above Average; Average; Attractive | ||
Hair Colour: |
Any | ||
Eye Colour: |
Any | ||
Has a Photo: |
Non-negotiable | ||
Ethnicity: |
Asian; Latino/Hispanic; White/Caucasian; Mixed | ||
Home Language: |
Any | ||
Other Languages: |
English | ||
Religion: |
Christian / Catholic; Christian / Protestant; Christian / Other; Spiritual, but not religious; Christian / Orthodox | ||
Relationship Status: |
Single; Separated; Divorced; Widowed; Partnered | ||
Have Children: |
No; Yes, not living with me; Yes, living with me | ||
Want Children: |
Yes; No | ||
Daily Diet: |
Eat most things; Eat healthily | ||
Smoking: |
Non-Smoker; Occasional; Trying to Quit; E-cigarette User | ||
Drinking: |
Non-Drinker; Occasional Drinker | ||
Education: |
High / secondary school; Current University / College Student; Some University / College; Technical Diploma; Associates degree; Bachelors degree; Postgraduate degree; PhD / Post Doctoral | ||
Occupation: |
Any | ||
Income: |
Any |
- Not important at all
- Slightly important
- Moderately important
- Decidedly important
- Non-negotiable
More About Him
Hair Style: |
Long |
Eyesight: |
I've got 20/20 vision |
Facial Hair: |
I have a goatee |
Body Hair: |
Average |
Disabilities: |
I have none |
Body Art: |
Pierced ears; A tattoo or two |
Sense of Humour: |
Witty |
Intelligence: |
Intelligent |
Ruled by: |
The head |
Party Behaviour: |
An average mingler |
Personality Traits: |
Daring; Easy going; Funny; Intelligent; Optimistic; Outgoing; Outspoken; Realistic; Stable |
Valued Qualities: |
Charity; Chemistry; Compassion; Devotion; Faithfulness; Forgiveness; Honesty; Humility; Humour; Kindness; Patience; Self-control; Sexiness; Tolerance |
Fashion Sense: |
Casual (I'm usually in my favourite jeans) |
Favourite Clothing: |
My trusty pair of jeans |
Date Activities: |
A music concert; A picnic in a park; Going to the theatre; Meeting for coffee; Walking on the beach |
Music Preferences: |
Broadway / Theatrical; Country & Western; Dance / Disco; Electronic Dance Music; Gospel / Religious; Latin; Opera; R&B / Soul; Rap / Hip Hop |
Reading: |
There's nothing better |
Books: |
(Auto)biographies; Crime; Science / Technology |
TV Habits: |
I don't have a TV |
TV Shows: |
Comedy / Sit-coms; Documentaries; Game shows; Nature / Wildlife; News |
Movie Frequency: |
Never |
Movie Preferences: |
Adult; Comedy; Drama; Horror; Romance |
Interests: |
Board games; Card games; Cooking; Healthy living; Reading |
Sport Involvement: |
An active participant |
Sports: |
Archery; Athletics; Badminton; Bowling; Bungee jumping; Camping; Canoeing; Cricket; Curling; Cycling; Darts; Extreme sports; Flying / Gliding; Handball; Hiking; Horse Riding; Hunting; Ice Skating; Inline / Roller skating; Motorsport; Mountain biking; Pool; Rock climbing; Rugby; Running; Sailing; Scuba diving; Shooting; Skiing; Sky diving; Snooker; Snorkeling; Snowboarding; Squash; Stand Up Paddleboarding; Surf skiing/kayaking; Surfing; Swimming; Table Tennis; Tennis; Volleyball; Wakeboarding; Walking; Water Polo; Weight training; White water rafting |
Cooking: |
I love it! |
Food: |
Chinese; Indian; Japanese; Seafood; Sushi; Thai |
Go Out to Eat: |
I always cook at home |
Dietary Restrictions: |
Gluten-free; Sugar-free |
Pace of Life: |
Organised |
Time at Work: |
What's work? |
Pastimes of choice: |
Volunteering |
Time Online: |
Less than once a week |
Take Drugs: |
Never |
Family Size: |
I don't have any family |
Family Closeness: |
I don't have any family! |
Relationship Type: |
I'm just plain single |
Willing to Relocate: |
For the right person, to the moon! |
Animals: |
I like animals |
Pets (Like): |
Bird(s); Cat(s); Dog(s); Exotic pet(s); Horse(s) |
Pets (Dislike): |
Fish; Reptile(s); Rodent(s) |
Turn-ons: |
Assertiveness; Body piercing(s); Dancing; Erotica; Flirting; Intelligence; Long hair; Showing affection in public; Skinny dipping; Tattoo(s); Wealth |
Turn-offs: |
Power |
Work Aspirations: |
I already have my ideal job |
Religious Attendance: |
Once a week |
Dream Home: |
Eco home in the bush |
Politics: |
I have no interest in politics |
Retirement Plans: |
Doing volunteer work |
Feelings about using DatingBuzz: |
Curious |
Honesty: |
Extremely |