In His Own Words
About Him
I live a full and intentional life and care deeply about the things and people I choose. Friends would probably describe me as driven, loyal and thoughtful. When I commit, I do so consciously. I can be intense in a good way, but I value honesty and emotional steadiness in return.
I am drawn to substance over surface. I appreciate intelligent conversation, humour, ambition and people who know who they are. Drama and inconsistency are not for me. Clear communication and reliability matter.
I enjoy staying active, taking care of my health and continuing to learn. I like movement, travel and meaningful projects, but I also genuinely enjoy quiet evenings and a sense of home. I do not need constant noise or nightlife to feel alive.
At this stage of my life, I think long term. I believe relationships are built intentionally. I am optimistic, but realistic. What I am looking for is not just chemistry, but something stable, grounded and lasting.
About His Ideal Match
A warm, thoughtful man who is ready for something real. Emotionally available, grounded and not afraid of commitment. He has his own life, passions and direction, but wants to build something lasting with the right partner.
As someone living in a different country, becoming part of each other’s wider families would feel deeply meaningful to me. I value belonging and connection beyond just the two of us.
I am 188 cm and feel most comfortable with a partner who has a similar physical presence. Physical attraction matters to me. I am drawn to men who take care of themselves, live an active lifestyle and feel at ease in who they are. Strong yet kind. Confident without being performative.
What His Friends Say
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About Him
Country of Origin: |
Switzerland | |
Location: |
Atlantic Seaboard, Cape Town, South Africa | |
Gender: |
Male | |
Age: |
37 | |
Star Sign: |
Libra | |
Height: |
188cm (6' 2.0") | |
Body Type: |
Athletic | |
Looks: |
Attractive | |
Hair Colour: |
Light Brown | |
Eye Colour: |
Blue-Green | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home Language: |
English | |
Other Languages: |
Afrikaans; German | |
Religion: |
Ask me later | |
Relationship Status: |
Single | |
Looking for: |
Long-term; Marriage | |
Have Children: |
No | |
Want Children: |
Yes | |
Daily Diet: |
Eat healthily | |
Smoking: |
Non-Smoker | |
Drinking: |
Occasional Drinker | |
Education: |
Postgraduate degree | |
Occupation: |
Health / Social Care | |
Income: |
Comfortable |
About His Ideal Match
Country of Origin: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Location: |
Anywhere in Western Cape, South Africa | ||
Gender: |
Male | ||
Age Range: |
27 - 41 | ||
Star Sign: |
Any | ||
Height: |
180cm (5' 10.9") - 210cm (6' 10.7") or taller | ||
Body Type: |
Slim; Average; Athletic | ||
Looks: |
Beauty contest winner; Very Attractive; Above Average; Attractive | ||
Hair Colour: |
Any | ||
Eye Colour: |
Any | ||
Has a Photo: |
Non-negotiable | ||
Ethnicity: |
Middle Eastern; White/Caucasian; Mixed | ||
Home Language: |
Afrikaans; English; German | ||
Other Languages: |
Any | ||
Religion: |
Any | ||
Relationship Status: |
Single; It's Complicated | ||
Have Children: |
Any | ||
Want Children: |
Yes; Maybe | ||
Daily Diet: |
Any | ||
Smoking: |
Non-Smoker | ||
Drinking: |
Any | ||
Education: |
High / secondary school; Current University / College Student; Some University / College; Technical Diploma; Associates degree; Bachelors degree; Postgraduate degree; PhD / Post Doctoral | ||
Occupation: |
Any | ||
Income: |
Enough; Comfortable; Wealthy; Fat cat |
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